Tuesday, February 19, 2013

The Power of Self-Esteem

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”  

-Thich Nhat Han

People are used to judge others by their actions, wear, way of speaking, manners and etc. But let me ask, how right is it? How comes that it is that way and we should do so? As we remember the proverb: "treat others the way you want them to treat you". We have heard it thousand times, but isn't it the reason we judge others the way we judge ourselves? Do people really want to be understood the way they understand others? Totally not. Unfortunately, most of the time we are not good enough in respecting others and ourselves. People mostly want to be understood by others more than they understand themselves. Sometimes we even want to be respected more than we respect ourselves. And it's impossible. We want too much of people where the only thing that deserves to be done is be comfortable with ourselves. 

In our lifespan we are unaware of
how we are living, how we are running our relationships and when we stop respecting ourselves we also stop respecting others. But it's only until you have proved to be the one who accepts others the way they are. These are the enlightened people who have already found out themselves, the way they are and don't need to be respected others, as they are already respected. We don't need to talk how we are, we just will automatically show it in our everyday life by our actions. When we start talking about who we are that's not us. That's our words. More of words - more of time wasting in thoughts. Self-esteem is when you are true to yourself and then to others. 

 That's how compliments work with people. When you show someone what he/she wasn't even thinking of, that will make them curious of you for your attentiveness. Because you discovered their little part. You discovered something that he/she didn't know was already there. Just show people who they really are and show your emotions toward them and stop complaining about your life. It doesn't mean you will be someone other than you are. And it is not about wearing a mask and acting like an actor like most people do. It is about leaving your previous thoughts behind and living the present, accepting what you have in your hands. Staring at yourself. Because You will start seeing others when you start seeing yourself. You are a mirror, look at it!

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